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BY JUSTINE THOMAS
There’s been some miscommunication
Down in marriage land
I’ve been festering my feelings
You’ve been holding back
Each boat is always docking on the right side
Neither of us wants to feel like we’re left behind
And I wanna feel
Prominent
And you wanna feel
Confident
So we lie
And say I know
I’m right this time
Chorus
Two in a marriage
Ten with all our baggage
Time to drag it to the curbside
Claiming all our faults
Abort the bag, let’s talk
Neither of us are the bad guy
Let’s double double
Sex-octuple
Down on us instead
From my lips I’ll read to you
Apologies in bed
There seems to be a wall we keep on
building up
Childhood insecurities of
Not being good enough
Our precious egos really should be supervised
We’re happier when we are unified
We wanna feel
Confident
We wanna feel
Prominent
So we nod
And say I know
I hear your side
Chorus
Read my lips
Marriage has no script
We grow, we change
But our love stays the same
Apocalypse
But our love eclipsed
Walls that crumble
When we double
Down on us instead
Chorus
Let’s double double
Sex-octuple
Down on us instead
From my lips I’ll read to you
Apologies in bed
a peek from inside the studio
about the song
Since I was a teenager, one of my biggest struggles has been a lack of confidence. Throughout my years in school, I had multiple teachers that tore me down for my health issues and made me feel like a failure — going so far as to lock my grades at a D while I was making up weeks of assignments.
It’s no surprise that I married a man who has dealt with similar struggles, but for him, it was with the various bosses he had worked with.
It’s one of the biggest feelings that connects us deeply and yet is also the most challenging in our relationship. When issues have arisen, we both have a tendency to want to double down, just to feel like we are finally right — even at times when we know we’re not. This was extremely hard in the early years of our marriage. There’s nothing like being a first time parent and owning your very first business with your spouse to catapult you into a pattern of trying to prove “you know best”.
It’s so easy to fall into the habit of trying to defend your opinion or prove your point, even when you know you’re completely wrong — especially when coming from a background of constantly feeling torn down. It creates a deep urge to want to be right and prove yourself.
Marriage can be challenging when you have your own insecurities trying to dominate the conversation. Sometimes the need to feel validated for your decisions or comments can be so blinding that you don’t want to apologize, even when you know you’re in the wrong.
I think most people have encountered that at some point or another and it always trickles into our home life. That need to feel confident or more prominent because something else has been tearing us down — so we stand our ground, even when we shouldn’t, and it can be detrimental to what’s most important: our relationships and the people we love.
My Apologies in Bed lyrics are all about reminding ourselves to stop doubling down on our egos and double down instead on communication and love.
